Amen to that.
So we had a meeting with my moms Dr on Tuesday. The third round of chemo didn’t help. Her platelets are below 10%. This means they can’t do a bone marrow test. They don’t even want to put her through another painful procedure though. Plus they don’t think they have to do it anyways. She has leukemia cells in her blood again. Which means that it’s probably in her marrow again. So the Dr thinks that she hasn’t gone into remission. So now she is just going to be on supportive treatment. They are going to try and get her strong enough to get her out of the hospital for a bit. Other than that it’s just a matter if waiting time till there is nothing more they can do.
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I’m so sorry Temperal. My heart aches for you and your family. I hope that they can get her strong enough to go home for awhile where she’ll be with family and be more comfortable. Keeping you all in my thoughts.
Same here. Keep your chin up for her.
I am so sorry, Temperal. Your mom is lucky to have you there for her. I hope she’s able to come home and spend time with you and the rest of your family. We are all thinking of you and hoping for the best for your mom.
Just echoing what others have said, I’m so sorry and I hope she can come home as well.
I am a complete newbvie to the forum, but I have dealt with cancer in my family before. If you need any help, then I will be glad to render any assistence that I can. Let me know what help you need…
Temperal, my thoughts are with you and your mom and family. I hope she gets strong enough to come home and be with all those that love her. Love and treasure every moment. We are here if you need us hugs
I saw on Twitter that you had a rough day today–just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you. I hope your mom is comfortable and getting to enjoy time with you and the rest of your family.
So here is what is going down. My mom has accepted the fact that she won’t be here too much longer. She has started all her funeral preparations. Knows what she wants on her tombstone. She has all her bible versus and hymns ready. She has prepared a few reflections she wants said. She is also finding her burial plot. She has also requested I write a eulogy. How does one go about that. I don’t respond to death in the way most do. I don’t see it as something to really mourn. I have accepted the fact that everyone dies at some point. This might be the hardest thing to do.
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A add on. Thank you again to all for the support. I can’t put into words how much it means. I must sound like a broken record saying it over and over again. One thing I am glad for is all the little distractions. My Chuck watch through. Which I have to up date soon. My love of GWC and two other cast I listen to He-Man.org roast Gooble Dinner and Masters of the Universe Chronicles. Twitter for all the insane banter on there. One day I will get fully in there and into the group. Well goodnight all for now. Going to watch some more Chuck.
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Talk to her friends and relations. Ask for stories. It’ll come.
And yeah, it’s a weird thing to do.
I’m not saying you should necessarily write the final version as a list, but here’s a question that can give you the bulk of it: What did she do for you and others? Try making a list, maybe a top-ten. That’ll get some ideas going.
Sorry for your troubles. Hang in there.
I agree with Pike and DFX, talk to family and friend about her and how she influenced their lives. Make a list and then focus on the good things…make it a celebration of her life and not a standard eulogy. You could also collect photos and create a slideshow of her at various family/friend gatherings where she’s having fun and smiling/laughing.
[b]I lost my Dad to cancer in 2009. Wow it does not seem that long ago. The type of cancer he had basically had a 99.9% fatality rate so we knew he was not going to be around. We were blessed that we were able to take a final vacation with him and spend as much time as possible. Also you do not want to leave anything unsaid that will haunt you after someone you love dies.
When I found out my Dad had cancer I went to counseling and basically went to through all the steps of mourning before he died where I had accepted he was going to pass away. If you are at that point please be aware you will go through the process again after your Mom goes.
My biggest advice…I do not know your family situation but my Dad had remarried and left his wife with all control over his trust. Basically she screwed us over. They had only been married four years and she took everything because Trusts are not public documents like Wills we had no legs to stand on. The hardest part was she took all my Dad’s belongings as well and moved out of state to marry someone else a few months after he died. Do not let this happen to you! We never talked to my Dad about a Will or Trust because it seem morbid. But you should because when people die some people you think you know go crazy so make sure all those types of things are taken care of just as much as the funeral plans.
My family got our sense of humor from my Dad so his eulogy was all the funny quirky things that made my Dad who he was. You should write things about your Mom that makes you smile.
My Dad’s cancer was the worst roller coaster in my life. I am sorry for anyone else that has ever or will ever go through the same thing. I am new around here and you do not know me. But I have been there and I wish you all the best.[/b]
Here’s Springsteen’s eulogy for Clarence Clemons:
http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/bruce-springsteens-eulogy-for-clarence-clemons-20110629
That is how it’s done. Don’t feel like you have to aim that high, though.
Today hasn’t been a good day. My mom who was out of the hospital fell this morning. So she decided it would be best to be back in the hospital. She has a slight fever still. Her blood presure is low 80/53. She also has some wheezing while breathing. Right now it’s really hard to keep a positive frame of thought. The rational scientific cold side of me is wondering how much longer she has. I just hope it’s not suddenly. We are supposed to be on vacation this week my family and I. Lucky for us we are only an hour away. I do worry though cause my youngest daughters birthday is on the 21st and I hope my mom makes it to that. I don’t know if she will make it to mine in October. We will just have to see. Really not having a happy day today.
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Oof. Reminds me of my mom. Fortunately I didn’t have kids, which I imagine makes it another level of weird.
Hang in there, for her and them.
I know it’s easier said than done…but stay strong Temp…you, your family and especially your Mom. Treasure each day…good or bad.
To all my GWC friends, correction to all my GWC family. Thank you all each and everyone of you who sent any support my way. These past 7 months have been one hell of an ride for me and my family. Finally there is a bit of peace though. At 2:45am Tuesday July 19th 2011 my mom passed away. This was preceded by a almost constant vigil by my family and myself. I having been there for 56 hours with 30 minutes of sleep before I went home to shower and watch a movie… When I went back and got there at 10 I had a great fun time on Twitter with a whole mess of you. You know who you are. The way we all can just come together is great. It really helped me out. Thank you to @Janitorbob, @CodyfromOhio and @UchihaDaisuke. You three were there on Twitter moments after it happened. I ask once more for a few more days of good thoughts from you as we go through the funeral and the burial. I love all of you guys and gals. No other forum I have ever been on is as close knit as this one. I am going to try and get some needed rest before I have to write my eulogy and finish a few minor details for the funeral.