My deepest sympathies to you and your family Temp. I hope that the memories and love shared give you all a little comfort in the coming days.
Temp,
My heart goes out to you and your family. My eyes filled with water as I read your post.
My condolences. My grandfather died of cancer just after Thanksgiving last year. I know it’s not the same as losing a parent, but I can understand. If you need someone to talk to, just let me know.
Temp, I went through a very similar thing a few years back and I know that there’s really nothing one can say except that her journey is done. She’s at peace, and now you should take some time for yourself.
Temperal I have been reading through your posts as they arrive and I feel quite helpless in knowing what to say the help relieve your burden.
The only thing I can think of is that your mom is still with people she loves and, what’s more, as long as you remember her she’ll always be part of your own universe.
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So the funeral is all planned. The visitation set. Photo boards are done. What a trip down memory lane that was. Now I just have to do the eulogy. Not sure how I am going to do that. I for the first time have writers block.
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So the visitation and funeral are over. The mourning process has started. The service was beautiful. Two of my moms musician friends did solos. I managed to choke through the eulogy. The reception after was busy. So many people came. The count was 308. After we threw a BBQ at our house. The immediate family and three of my friends came to it. So through good food some drinks and a lot of twisted humor we are starting to let ourselves greave.
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It must have been wonderful to see and feel how many people beyond you and your family your mom touched in her lifetime. I can’t imagine how hard it must be, giving a eulogy for your mother, but I hope that when I eventually come to have to face something as tough as what you’ve faced in the last 7 months, I am able to do so with even a spoonful of the grace you’ve shown.
We are all here for you, still. I imagine that the next few weeks may actually be the hardest–as you really do start the grieving process. Let us know if you need any help, whether kind words or something to make you smile. Feel better, Temp.
ok tome to update. This week has been hell for me. First day back to work and when not everyone knows is rough. Thank you though to you GWC crew on twitter for helping me come up with crazy explanations for where I was. If it wasn’t for all of your help and support I would still be very depressed.
I tried to handle this whole situation with as much grace as I could muster. It has been rough but I have started the healing process.
Again I can not thank you all enough. Every kind word every thought of support really helped. I love each and everyone of you.
Also the second part of the What if arc really really helped me to have some serious laughing that I actually cried from it. so Audra (ladies first) Chuck and Sean thank you for doing that way out there cast and every other cast you do.
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I have thought of closing this thread down now that things are all over with. I have decided not to though. I think I will keep it going for awhile. Atleast until I think it’s served it’s purpose. It doesn’t matter if anyone reads or post here again. I just need an outlet and I know I can trust GWC to not judge me like other forums.
Right now I and my youngest are having trouble sleeping. I haven’t had a good night sleep. Me since Saturday when I started my vigil at the hospital.
My youngest hasn’t slept good since well after the cemetery. She has started sleep walking. I know it runs in the family. I did it my wife has and our eldest daughter has. I really want to help her get over this. She misses her grandma very much. They spent a lot of time together. Everyday together pretty much.
Adding on to this post.
I just heard myself on the cast. The episode with cowboys and aliens. I again appreciate everything all of you do.
As for being preceded by porn star talk well for sure that’s GWC. I have come to think of you all as family. Even though I have yet to actually meet anyone of you in person family you are.
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So my already shitty year has gotten worse. First bad I rolled my van. Second I lost my mom. Now the third my wife finds out yesterday she might be a type 2 diabetic. She goes for another Amc test tomorrow.
As an adult type 2, I want you to know that it sounds a lot scarier than it is. It’s a big adjustment in diet but you can have a normal life. She might not even use insulin. Its been 10 years for me and I’m just starting insulin therapy. All will be ok - hang in there.
HubAZ recommends looking up a good Diabetes Educator (that’s what we call them in the US CDEs). These are usually nurses who are certified in diabetes education/nutrition and can help your wife fine tune her eating habits. The doctors won’t have that kind of time to be so detailed in a 20 minute appointment.
I agree with Splatterson that this is something you can effectively control and manage.
Didn’t think about that 'cause my doc automatically sends me to one anytime a major change happens!
Well she didn’t end up going. She didn’t do the fasting thing right. I do know it can be controlled with diet and all. I just hope she has the will power to change her life style.
I won’t lie - it’s hard. Do what you can to support her but don’t control! For me, at least, that doesn’t work. I end up eating in secret and that I not a good thing. It’s not that horrible, you can still eat the yummy stuff, just not as much and not as often! Luckily for me, I was already drinking diet soda when I was diagnosed so I didn’t have to change that! Once she gets in a rhythm with her eating, it will be a lot better.
One thing you might notice is that YOU will be able to tell when her blood sugar is getting low before she does. I know that at my house, my husband can always tell long before I can. If it’s up to me, I don’t realize it’s getting bad until I get the clammy sweats followed closely by light-headedness. It happens more on the weekends when we don’t eat at our normal times. 
We’re here for you if you have questions!
Hey all. Haven’t posted anything in this thread in a long time. Well I need to put a lot out there. Get it off my chest and out of my head.
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People who pit medical test off bug me. My wife hasn’t gone for her second blood test. To see if she is diabetic. Plus what is up with her enzyme count. I know it might be scary, but it needs to be done.
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I do not have a little both where I charge 5 cents to hear your problems. I am not a fucking shrink. I sometimes need a break from hearing problems. Sure I don’t mind occasionally but daily. Fucking shut up. Same things over, and over, and over. Just because I work with you doesn’t mean I need to hear it all.
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How do I tell you to stop drinking all the time. I know that the death of your wife my mom hurt, but alcohol isn’t going to fix it all. Talk about it with people. I will help. If you need stuff taken away I can help. It hurts for me too. Seeing her stiff all packed up is not fun.
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Can people start pulling their weight around the house. Fuck I can’t do everything. I need some time for me too. Why do I have to spend every moment doing choirs while everyone else sits the fuck around doing nothing. It posses me off.
Now if only I could say this stuff to people. But no I bottle shit up way to much. I’ve become a master at avoiding my own emotions.
Temporal, I’ve been there, man. (On no. 1 I’ve been the guy who puts off the medical tests. With diabetes, it’s just easy to “play the ostrich,” as one doctor put it to me once. I’ve only recently gotten good control over the disease, and I’ve had it for 21 years. So have patience.) I cannot stress enough the value of finding someone good to talk to, especially a mental health professional. Just getting someone whose job it is to listen to you for an hour or so a week and is trained to help you when a bad mood turns out to be more than that is an invaluable ally in difficult times like these.
And when they’re unavailable, this forum helps a lot too.