Time does help. Over time you can get a better job that equals less stress. You can find a good friend who helps you to be happy. You can eat well and keep all of your sugar levels well level.
When things go wrong I always say to my self it has worked out before and it will again. So as dumb as it sounds one day at a time and time heals all does work in a way.
So go get something to eat and have a great day.
(Sorry for the mom food pusher thing. I can not help myself since I am older than most of you.)
I’m the son of an Italian mother, and I hate to be steroetypical, but food was her solution to any problem. It may be the reason I don’t eat when i’m stressed. Is that Freudian enough for everyone?
MMMMMM makes for a good shrink session. No it probably is just your nature. My brother stops eating and I eat more. We gained and lost pound for pound when my father died. As we became healthier I lost and he gained pound for pound. Strange but true.
Light grown my Mac did not come in. My husband misunderstood and it may not get in to next week since he ordered the larger hard drive. So this week’s Frak party may have to be short for me.
HL, glad to hear that you’re recovering. Sometimes it’s the little things that, when neglected, can throw us off really badly. When you take care of yourself, you start to find a little self respect that helps you face the big stuff.
I started going to counseling thanks to a scholarship from my church (I’ve since had to postpone even that, due to my lack-of-job situation). Even if religious care isn’t the way you want to go, I’m sure there are means and organizations that can support you in getting help. Praying you find one.
And stay in touch with the people who, IRL, care about you. Once you start counseling, you find that a lot of what they do is to just listen, help you sort out your own thoughts, and question the negative stuff, which is what a good friend would do anyway.
And yeah, totally eat something. I tend to ignore food when I’m stressed too. I’m going to take my own advice and make me some dinner.
ETA: Oh my gods, I just found out I still have pasta in my pantry. Om-non-nom (to the nth)!
Thank you Apollymy. It’s always better when the trend is up!
Head Lance,
Now that I know you are seeing a doctor and on the list for a counsellor (number one priory) I feel like I can give you some motherly advice. Feel free not to take it.
First, cut back on the coffee – you mentioned drinking quite a lot. If your drinking more than two or three cups per day, coffee isn’t helping you, its becoming part of the problem. Coffee is a diuretic and an appetite suppressant and will accentuate underlying anxiety or depression. If you are drinking more than 5 - 7 cups a day, DON’T go cold turkey. I have seen quite a few caffeine addicted people go cold turkey and make themselves very ill. One old hairdresser of mine drank 22 cups of coffee a day and decided to go cold turkey. He spent the next few days curled up on the floor, unable to walk, occasionally vomiting and always writhing in pain from the head ache. You don’t want that. Cut off slowly, but you can still expect to feel like a damp rag and to have a headache.
Next, write what you eat down and when you eat it. It forces you not to forget to eat – and keeps your mind on food intake. Try to eat something at least every two hours, if you can. Three meals a day, two small snacks and a before bedtime snack is what you want. Avoid the “tea and toast trap” or in your case the “coffee and toast trap” – this trap find a person making white bread toast in the morning as it is easy and not much else for the rest of the day (other than perhaps more white bread toast). Even on a small budget, you should be able to eat fairly well if you take care in shopping. Don’t buy processed stuff or too much high sugar stuff which, although high in calories, will bounce your blood sugar around and make you feel ill. Your body under stress uses more than it’s fair share of certain nutrients like vitamin B (particularly B-12). Lots of noodles, whole wheat breads and buns, cereals plus protein (peanut butter, eggs and tuna and cheaper cuts of meat can be economical) and fruits and vegetables. Vitamin supplements or high calorie supplements like Ensure might help – but they are very expensive and not really necessary. If you are careful with what you eat all day, you can make a high calorie shake yourself using full fat milk plus full cream milk powder, some ice cream, chocolate syrup/honey or sugar if you feel the need. Add fruit for different flavours.
I hope you start feeling well soon. I know how lousy it is to feel lousy.
I have previously gone nuts since I have been working with teens for over 20 years. I am just a bit frustrated since my laptop can only be used for an hour at a time and there is 3 hours of Frak parties. Once the show is over I can go to the desktop to chat.
tap tap tap (foot) dang put the hard drive in grrrrrrrr
Ok, I just asked for a raise - a big one.
That’s always a hard thing to ask.
So now, I get to wait for about a month to get an answer.
I’m trying to stay loose and not stressed about this, but it’s hard.
Much good luck to you, NBTR. You should really put this in the “Cool Craaaap” thread, since you found the courage to do it, whether or not you get want you want. Kudos.
Debate tournament today and tommorow. Im mad because I did porly simply because I spoke to quietly. I had people telling me i was clearly the smartest in the round, but was too quiet. Frak me.
The trick is to speak to the people in the back row (even if there aren’t any actual people in the back row.) That kills two birds, you’re not as nervous (because you can’t see them as clearly) and you’re sure to speak loudly enough.
When I was in University my parents, my whole family in fact, disowned me. I won’t go into why they did this, I don’t feel up to explaining tonight.
My then Girlfriends family effectively adopted me in failry short order, an act I can honestly say saved my life at that point, something that they’ve continued to do for me ever since. They are my “real” family in every way that matters, but I’ve always hoped that I’d somehow find a way to reconnect to my “previous” family, if only to be able to talk to them, to meet my neices and nephews, or just to talk to them again.
Yesterday I found out that my father had died. He’d been in a hospice for a few weeks, and was buried on the 3rd. I’ve been blankly going about my business ever since, I’m not sure how I feel, i just can’t bring myself to cry over him, i think htat makes me a horrible person.
I don’t know what to do really, what can I do? I think that i know that’s a door closed behind me now, but a clean break it isn’t. well, this makes no sense at all does it?
my Mac did not come in. My husband misunderstood and it may not get in to next week since he ordered the larger hard drive. So this week’s Frak party may have to be short for me.
