I don’t have that “He/She’s my friend’s mate” filter. It leads to bad situations but I feel go about myself so…
I assume that’s a simple typo and you were missing an o.
In this vein (and yes, I realize it’s going to cause a ruckus!), why would a woman stay with a monster like this? I realize there are all sorts of esteem and finance and psychological reasons to stay in an abusive relationship but at some point don’t you say “Frak this, I want to live without this craaaaaaaaaaaaaap”?
Sophmore year sigh
Crap Boxy - I just went to my 20 year reunion a month ago! Just relax and enjoy Sophomore year!
You would think so, but I think you hit the nail on the head with the “esteem” and the psychological stuff. Most of these guys are controlling to the point that they have convinced their victim that she is trapped. It takes an extremely strong woman to overcome that after years of abuse and even then, I think it’s not a done deal. Often, even a strong woman will go back multiple times before she finally cuts the cord. If she does finally cut it. Every return is a failure in her mind once the abuse starts again. Esteem sinks lower, self-doubt increases. And the abuser uses that to his advantage. Sigh. I pray, literally pray, that neither one of my children finds them self in an abusive relationship.
Yes, I wonder that too. And no, you won’t cause a ruckus.
You only can be a friend and be supportive. Many woman, especially with children feel there is now way out. Some think they did something wrong and deserve the treatment. Just be careful some woman will defend their man and end your friendship. Strange but true.
Fay and water says it all for me.
Yeah, before I was a parent, creepy controlling guys that treated woman awfuly like that would make me outraged and mad. But now that I’m a father of girls, I add scared and nervous too the list.
My parents had some fear of that for me when I was young. All I could think was “Well, you taught me to stand up for myself AND how to shoot a gun. I think I’ll be fine…”
I know many abusers have a family history of abuse that just continues on each generation. As a mother of boys, I feel very strongly about teaching them how to treat women. Obviously how my husband treats me plays a big part in that, but now that my 15 year old has a girlfriend, I’m talking to him a lot. Luckily, he talks to us about a lot of stuff- like giving her the first kiss. He’s so darn smitten though, I worry that he’ll smother her, which can lead to being possessive. It’s exciting to see him having this experience and terrifying as hell.
That defines being a parent. 
I can’t even think that far ahead. I’m nervous as hell about my six year old going to first grade in a new school district in a more urban setting than the one she went to kindergarten in. The other day my wife said that we’re going to need to start having “those talks” with her soon, and all I could say was, “but she’s six.”
Why can’t they just stay four? I liked that age!
(I know, I know…)
My subdivision entrence is flooded. Hell I did not really want to go out anyway.
FAY is FINALLY here. Kinda. Damn she is slow. But what really erks me is that i am at work. i wanted to play in the rain. But i guess with as slow as Fay is moving i will still have tonight and probably most of tomorrow and probably sunday.
There have been 6 deaths from Fay. Most have them are because they decided to go for a swim in the ocean. I am going to a craft store that is around the corner. It may be a short trip if any of the roads are flooded. It is less than a mile away so I feel safe. We still are getting bands of hard rain.
For now we are still just just a drizzle but the outer bands are just starting to reach us. Its crazy how slow she is. Shes been about 60-70 miles away from us since midnight and has barely moved. Hopefully this will help us out in our drought somewhat but probably not because we will get to much runoff.
Did you see the footage of the kite surfer trying to take on Fay? That was not necessarily the smartest move…
That would be an understatement. :rolleyes: