How to date succesfully while being a fan of geek things!

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#21

My testimony on how I met an attractive fellow geek. Been together for 2 years 5 months.

I was often a patron of a store, owned by my girlfriend’s family. I never saw her because she was away at Clemson. When she came back for the summer I would stop in every morning on the way to work.

Now I am getting old. I’ was 32. I work for the army but was never in uniform. I have short hair ( but not ARMY hair). I was always in slacks. Button up shirt. occasional tie. I came in, handled bussiness. spoke wiht her casualy. Didn’t flirt. She didn’t either.

Her oppinion of me. I was in my mid-to late twentys and an office d-bag. Sure I looked pretty well groomed… but I was obviously into preppy future lawyers or med-student types.

My oppinion of her. Hot!, but a small town type that probably likes auto raceing, EMinEM, The Hills, and American Idol.

One saturday I came in after a run and was wearing a TOOL t-shirt. She was wearing a Full metal Alchemist T-shirt.

She was like " wow, I like Tool"

I was like " I like anime… but I am not familur with that show"

and we have been living together 6 months later!

#22

Speaking of cre. I was in a different kinda crew. Rowing. I did crew at Tennessee. It was the only sport in which I ever participated where I honestly felt “geek kinship” with every teammate. Most schools have a club you can join if not varsity. ANYBODY can row. it’s loads of fun!

This whole thing got me intersted ( the GWC DR. PHIL advice thing) so I started a dateing advice thread. It seems we all have two to 75 cents to put in on this one!

#23

Pretty good advice all around, but that’s the best bit. Don’t be afraid to be who you are. Some of my friends are skinheads (not the sterotypical nazi kind. That’s a whole other story), and they respect me because I never try to pretend I’m anything other than what I am.

#24

I actually met my only girlfriend to date (hey I’m only 20!) because she came up to me and said “oh my gosh I love star wars!” I was wearing a Japanese Star Wars t-shirt

we’d probably still be together but she ended up going off to WVU and I stayed behind in Wisconsin and the long distance thing ended up strangling the life out of it

#25

Boxy, if you are 2 years away from college, take my advice and learn to play a musical instrument. NOW. Think of it as an investment in your future dating. I never met a girl that didn’t like a guy that could play a tune.

But no piano accordions, OK? :wink:

gaf

#26

Im a drummer:cool:
but I have always wanted to learn to play the saxophone

#27

This forum rules

#28

I find it is very easy if you just follow these steps

1: Cut a hole in a box
2: Put your junk in that box
3: Make her open the box

And that’s the way you do it

#29

I just tried that…you sir are a liar!

#30

Yes. A million times yes.

Some of the best relationship advice I ever got was from my parents: people NEVER change who they are, good or bad. The worst thing you can do is try to go into a relationship pretending to be something you aren’t. The best thing you can do is figure out who you are, be comfortable with that person, and then find another person with whom you can enjoy mutual comfort.

My story is I met my husband while I was in the tail end of another relationship and we got to talking about webcomics and Star Wars. He was there for me when that relationship fell apart: not always a good thing but in this case it was awesome. My first Valentine’s Day present to him was a plushie Cthulhu, his first birthday present to me was a homemade lightsaber hilt :smiley:

#31

Just make sure if you are going to tape the box shut you will want to poke holes in the box so your junk can breath. Also make sure to give her small cutting tools to remove said tape other wise…:eek:. Also make sure to pay for tracking and insurance if you are going to mail the box. Nothing is worse than having your junk go missing in the US postal service.

#32

Every single holiday…

#33

I do come across as an ass pretty often… but my masters is in Psychology ( not that you really learn anything about reading people from that) and my thesis was on human relationships. I am an Intelligence analyst by trade and a geek… so I know a little about the human condition of my single geek friends.

It amazes me daily how many people don’t. When I was an undergrad I ran a radio show on campus radio at night (a love line rip-off) where people would ask me relationship advice. I was just speaking common sense (as far as I was concerned) and people thought I was a genius. That is how hack’s like Dr. Phil makes their money. My true geek hobby is the human condition. I could discuss this crap for years. As a rule, whatever you think is the way you ought to go…it ususally is.

#34

You must have done it wrong.

If you do it out of order, say:

2: Put your junk in that box
1: Cut a hole in a box
3: Make her open the box

It is a bloody mess and tends not to impress. :eek:

If you go:

1: Cut a hole in a box
3: Make her open the box
2: Put your junk in that box

You loose all the suspense. :frowning:

Don’t mess with the steps man.

#35

I highly recommend sweetongeeks.com for those looking to try online dating created by geeks for geeks (and nerds). I met my boyfriend through the site and we’ve been together coming on two years now.

#36

I really do appreciate your support, because I know its for me :smiley:
I generally do follow the advice you say, because I generally figured out that before. Although it might seem very haughty of me, its generally the people I know. I would rather date a geek, but I recoginize that that is unlikely. Girls just tend not to like me :/. I have friends…sorta, but nothing more… sigh High School

#37

That gives a whole (hole?) new meaning to that one Futurama episode with the parallel universes where the blue Dr. Zoidberg has that cardboard box and he goes like “the box says no” when the red Dr. Zoidberg wants to hold the box for a change.

(am I a geek?)

High School is great! You know what I love about high school girls???

#38

Here is the thing Boxy: High school isn’t life…not even close. Don’t focus all your energy on “finding a geek to date”, focus your energy on doing things you enjoy. Get involved in (or more so) extra-curricular activities, work hard at school and position yourself for greatness. Trust me when I say if you are confident, accomplished and smart you will have a totally different problem with women…you will have to choose between those that are attracted to you. The most important point is that you don’t do the extra-curriculars and working harder at studies to try and get women, you do it for yourself…the rest are simply the results of that work.

#39

The only acceptable answer is nothing:rolleyes:

#40

I do stuff…granted my only really major character flaw is lazyness, but every once in a while I find something I enjoy (debate) and work hard at it.