Look at a girls eyes. I know boobs are distracting, but look at her eyes!
It’s a new thing for me, and it makes me uncomfortable!
As for the girls, dude, you need to find cooler chicks, Geek is IN these days, go to the comic shop and hang out, cool girls’ll show up! Trust me!
I do. Eyes can be attractive too;) (smilie pun)
I tried. It failed 
I try to find them…i am failing
I have a feeling that i dont live out there.
I go to the stores, cons, all other such nonsense…sigh
but I appreciate the advice, kind words, and good vibes from the crue. You guys rule
now we just need a florida meet-up that my parents will let me go to…
Hang in there, padawan. I was about twice your age when I met The GF. The fun part was we met in a very non-geeky situation, so sussing each other out was part of the charm.
Your problem is most HS girls are closet geeks. Things will improve in college.
There are 400 kids in my HS. 100 in my grade. I know all the “geeks”. None watch sci-fi
There were 16 kids in my graduating class, and none of my friends were geeks until I got to college. College is exponentially better than high school on so many levels.
True that. College is when people stop trying to play ‘high school.’ It’s amazing how much of a difference that makes.
Of course, after college they go right back to playing high school, so enjoy it while you have it.
You have no idea how many times you guys (and girls) have said “it will get better in college.” Fuck that, Im stuck here for 2 more years, i want a date…:mad:
It will get better in college, I’m reliably informed that dating in high-school sucks, but yeah, if I was in your shoes, I’d be annoyed too. is there anything you could do, activities-wise, to meet potential geek-chicks? Computer club or School newspaper or something?
Something that annoys me: ME! I’m SUCH a bloody wimp! it’s INFURIATING!
Something that annoys me: The irony that Boxy and The Naughtiest Monkey both can’t find their soul mates. 
Seriously, what could be more perfect. 
Sadly, it didn’t get better for me, date wise, until graduate school. One word to remember, Boxy: CONFIDENCE. I severely lacked that for a long time.
That’s the secret word. Also, indifference (which is the same thing, writ small.)
Have you tried the Drama club/class peeps. They tend to be really geeky and cool. Thats where most of my geek friends i now have have stemmed from.
I don’t mean to go all Obi-wan on you… but…
Don’t ever forget that “geek” is only PART of who you are!
I love this forum, and come here whenever i can and have great conversations with lots of different people, INCLUDING YOU!..
Maybe what you are actually looking for is balance in your life. the only way I know of to find new things that interest me is to try everything, and I have been right about most things that i thought I would not like, BUT, some things suprised me,
For instance… I thought I would hate doing theater in HS… but i gave it a shot and found out it was fun and I met a bunch of cool people i didn’t know were cool before…
I tried the book club…Not for me
I tried the chess club … not for me
I tried Art Clubs … not for me
but I did find something else and made new friends…
I think I succeded… because I was willing to fail over and over.
thats just one geeks thoughts… i hope it helps
Oh I know Im pretty awesome.
And my middle name is apathetic-indifference so i should be fine:D
Actually…no. I know most of them, but im sure there are a few who i dotn know. But I definitely dont have time to actually do drama, I have debate.
actually my only friend who is a real geek does drama…
Then you totally got da hook-up!
I will never try to speak like that again, I’m just too damned English.
On another thread we are talking about dateing while being a fan of geek media and how to find happiness. I figure we can all chime in with our takes on the subject!!!
I have had a pretty good run at dateing, fitting in to society, while maintaining “the geek in me”. Here are a few of the secrets to …
.......Dateing while being a geek!
Ok. I am a fan of media and games that society has labeled geek. I like geeky stuff. There is a system to dateing while being a geek. Outsiders to our hobbies often think that we are all dorks. While almost all dorks are geeks, most geeks are actually not dorks. It is impotant to let it be known that you are a geek… without comeing across as a dork.
None of these are neccesary for all people but they all can at least help you to get along in the world. This is for the geek that either hasn’t EVER really dated anyone… and is looking for a tolerant other person… or maybe a fellow geek.
Fellow Geeks: Go to the gym. ( I’m not saying to meet people, but that is ok too) You don’t have to go for the body of a He-stud or a background dancer from a mucic video. but you need to take care of yourself. Many geeks didn’t play sports when they were younger and feel “left out” in the body department. Just work on yourself a little and even if you aren’t where society wants you… you’re at least working on it and you will feel better about yourself. The opposite sex picks up on insecurities. Have pride that your not a couch potato. The opposite sex can get past looks for the right person easily… especialy if they know that your working on it! If you already look good. Keep it up… the world often goes by a little easy if you feel and look good.
Hygene, clean apartment, buy new clothes at least yearly ( this tends to be our guy friends) … we all know that great guy, he’s sweet, he’s smart, he’s a fellow fan, he’s your lifeline of you ever went on Millionaire… but he has never figured out where his hair brush or toothpaste are. But, he knows where his RUSH t-shirt from a concert in 11th grade is… cause he is wearing it twice a week ( without washing). Get it togehter. We don’t want to be superficial… but we are still animals. Only the nicest, most understanding, and even more lonly women want to put up with this one! Handle bussiness.
Often your whole life is your geek hobby… so you want to talk about it instantly with everyone you meet. That’s ok. Speak about it with confidence… don’t shamefully admit something. Say " I like Star Trek!" with confidence.
But, understand completely and WITHOUT DEBATE if they don’t. Don’t be offended if the person thinks it’s dorky. You might like geeky things… but those thins don’t define you unless YOU make them. Accept that society has sterotypes for some of what we like. Don’t blame the people that label us… blame the Dorks that give credence to the sterotype. Don’t get offended at the laymen. It’s those Dorks out there that have done this too you. Your not going to change it on the spot. If everything else clicks and you start dateing… you can attempt to change their minds later! If they like you… they’ll be up for the expierience. If you push them early on ( or in a social situation where it doesn’t fit)… you just look like a Dork.
Just be a cool person that IS YOU. Don’t try to be a character that is “the different guy” ( biggest geek mistake ever). Being different is cool… if you really are. TRYING to convince people that you are this other person (character) isn’t. If you want to wear a Cat in the Hat cap around because YOU like it… that’s cool. If you are doing it because you know that it will cause a scene and it works for your character… you look like a douche! It works for a while, but eventualy they see thru it. What then: you’re burned out… and in the end… they don’t like you or your fake persona. Just be yourself.
Be yourself doesn’t mean say and do EVERYTHING that pops into your mind. Hold a little back. Don’t be desperate for this to “work out”. Go with the flow. learn to gauge people. Until you can gauge people in class or work… dateing is going to suck!
Do the things you like and meet people that like them too. IF you are Really really cool and hot, you can meet a chick at a bar and convert her into likeing scifi, no problem. This whole thread isn’t for you. If your haveing problems dateing , what makes you think your going to walk into a bar and convince a sorority girl to start watching Babylon 5? Reaasonable expectaions: Hang out and do what you want to do. If you have followed the above… you should eventually meet someone availible. A single person ( or a person that would be willing to get single for the right person) who likes what you like , is attracted to you a little if you are right there right under their nose.
I’m gonna preach it to the fella’s (since you ladies already know that if you show up at a con we are breaking our knecks to flirt with you!).
If she is there and talking to you… there is a reason. It might just be that you are intersting. But that is a BIG point in your favor. Many guys aren’t intersting at all… women put up with the personality of the good looking guy, but wish he were more like them. If you ARE like them… you have a neck up on the casual guy. If your attrative and into the same stuff… you’re shooting fish in a barrell. It’s easier than it sounds. You just have to not worry about it so much. so here’s my wrap up! Look your best, stay clean, be yourself, don’t always be yourself, set reasonable expectaions… and have confidence.
That’s how I feel! How about you?!?!
Yeah, The GF was a crew member. Good place to find cool peeps.