I’m a shameless fan who even loves the books that suck. Except for Darksaber, Dark Journey, the Black Fleet Crisis, and the Bounty Hunter Trilogy.
But I will say that the NJO-and-later books are much better quality than the Bantam-era ones. For one, there’s more of an effort to keep things consistant. I never liked Luke pre-NJO because his characterization was so irregular. There’s actually overarcing plots and internal consistancy.
That said, NJO was waaaay too long. Some people out there have “abridged lists” of which ones to read and which to skip, but I really do advise reading them all. (Even Dark Journey, which I hated. There was still stuff in it that is important in later books, as out of character as I thought the characters were.)
The Dark Nest books were… eh. Some good elements (Tarfang the killer Ewok!), some bad ones. (WTF BUGS. That stuff still weirds me out.) They still set up the next arc.
Legacy of the Force. Much tighter paced, at nine books versus nineteen. Three authors on a rotating schedule, and all pretty good ones: Aaron Allston, Karen Traviss, and Troy Denning. (I know people have issues with Denning and Traviss, but whatever personal problems I have with them as authors I think that they can write pretty well.) I happened to like the series, but I know some people didn’t. If you liked Episode 3, I think you’d like this series.
Millenium Falcon. I consider this a must-read, as it handles the relationship between Han, Leia, and a third character really well. It also sets up the next arc.
Fate of the Jedi is the current arc, one book in and eight more to go. I’m really liking it, especially since it’s looking like it’s going to show how things got to how they are in the Legacy comics. Aaron Allston wrote the first book, Outcast, and I thought it was a great balance of funny, interesting, and sad. (That may be because bad things happen to the family of two characters I adore.)
Really, you’d have to give them your own try.