No, I haven’t heard about that. Would be very cool to hear those stories if you can find them too.
Here you go:
(like I said, Solai’s story sounds pretty similar to yours)
And, weirdly enough from the Excel thread, here’s the Floppy Disk Incident… :o
There’s a floppy disk incident?
Do tell Mssr Ranger. Do tell
Those are such tragic geek love stories! I wasn’t so much the geek at Uni, that came later mostly. Only in the sense that I was a horticulturist which isn’t that cool, but with all the guys doing the same course as me that didn’t matter so much. With the undying love declarer we did some very serious flirting but he had a girlfriend (now his wife) and I’m no cheater. He said that he was too scared of rejection to tell me how he felt. I guess I was the same.
I’ve come to hate Linux. I’ve been dabbling with it for about a week now and I just hate it, nothing works right. I tried Ubuntu, but it can’t handle my sound card properly, I only got crappy sound and then I tried Mandriva, but the hibernation and suspension modes were totally frakked up and stalled my computer every time. Plus, I totally hate it that I can’t just download Winamp, install it and use it like I could with Windows and I’m definitely going back to Windows tonight. If this Recovery CD doesn’t let me down, that is…
If Macs weren’t disproportionately expensive, I’d have gotten a Macbook long ago, but the way it is, I get a lot more bang for my Euros with IBM or Samsung.
Life is teh suck day because…
It is the first anniversary of my father’s death, and because some idiot hit my car and it had to go to the panel beater’s I can’t drive the two hours to his burial site.
When I was 11 he was diagnosed with leukaemia, and had treatment every three weeks. He never went into remission and the side effects were terrible, including osteoporosis that led to him breaking his spine in three places the year before he died.
He was diagnosed with lymphoma on top of that when I was in my early twenties. He was in hospital for five agonising months before he died. It was not peaceful.
It gets worse. It was the night before my sister’s wedding, about 12 hours before the kick off to the ceremony. We all had to go through the motions on the day, but it wasn’t until the father of the bride speech that I lost it. He had rung his brother a few days previously and dictated what he wanted to say. I wasn’t prepared for that. My sister had to cancel her honeymoon.
The last thing we said to each other was on the phone before they zonked him out with morphine. It was I love you.
I hope this is not too much information.
i’m so sorry you missed your visitation dear.
i can only talk about my own experience but for me
A loss like this never really leaves me, but I take heart that those we loose are at piece, and i’ll see them again when my time here is done.
but if you want some completely unsolicited advise go see him when you can. it doesn’t have to be on an anniversary. I always feel better after a visit. It makes me feel connected to them. or I do something, that I used to do with him. Like for me and my grandma we would always go to morning service and then we’d go for a walk in the park, so now from time to time I go to church and than go for walk with her to a park.
Hope this doesn’t sound too insane but it helps me
That doesn’t sound insane at all. I definitely will do that when I get the car back. We used to go for walks along the beach, so I will do that. His burial site is right next to the sand dunes, near his old beach house.
Thanks Boomer
Thanks for sharing that Michaela. I can’t imagine what that would have been like to experience that and you sister, wow. I am tearing up just reading it. God bless you and your family. I think that your story is important to help us all remember to enjoy each day, whatever it brings. One never knows what life will throw at them so always be thankful for what we have. I have no doubt that wherever your father is now he knows that you are thinking of him and that you miss him. Please take comfort in the fact he is no longer in pain and is free now to be with you all of the time. While we take comfort in the emotional feelings we attach to special objects and places it can be just as powerful to just sit down and take some time alone for yourself. Maybe prayer or meditation if you like one and if you have a photo album could be the best of all. Reflecting on what he gave you and your family; his love, caring, compassion, personality and skills are all part of those who knew him. I believe we take the best of the people we care for and admire, then we apply those things to our own life and in that way they are truly part of us.
Hope this helps and not having lost a parent I hope I am not sounding like a fool. Have a great week, David.
Thank you so much David, it’s not foolish at all. I did get out my photos today, I think it helped. The main comfort is that he isn’t in pain anymore.
I am so, so sorry…about all of it. About the fact that you are unable to drive to your father’s burial site. About the damage to your car. But most of all about the pain of the loss. May you find some measure of comfort today in looking back.
Of course it’s not too much information. You choose to share as much or as little here as you’d like. And if you have the courage to tell us something like this, more people will feel like they personally know you and become better friends.
I’m not gonna trivialize what you have gone through by saying “I feel your pain”, because I don’t. What you have experienced must be far, far worse than just losing a loved one, of which each of us all have experience, I’m sure. You must be a such a strong person to be so bright and positive after all that, and we admire you for it.
I’m gonna call my parents. Love the ones that are still with you, because they are not always gonna be with you. That’s the lesson I’m learning everyday.
Teh suck would be not remembering it.
And there aren’t any better last words to share with a loved one.
Thank you so much for these kind words. It’s great to be able to share this in such a supportive environment. I agree with you about making the most of people who are still here. I relate to my Mum very differently these days, letting some of the small stuff go and enjoying her
You’re right Pike. Although he isn’t here anymore it’s a sign of respect and remembrance. I’m very lucky that I was able to speak to him when he knew what was happening. A lot of people don’t get that luxury when they lose people suddenly in car accidents and the like.
An update on this story. The guy concerned wanted to start something up with me, and it’s taken all my strength and a week to put him completely straight that “intimate” IM is just as bad as real life cheating. Am I over-reacting? I’m ashamed to say it took me this long to call him and just put an end to the whole thing. When he started ringing me alarm bells started to peal
Not at all. No good can come from that.
Yeah, that’s what I thought. Glad that I’ve set it straight now. It’s tricky when things start off innocently enough about catching up, and then temptation rears…
I’m so sorry I missed this the other day.
I can’t say I know what it’s like to lose a loved parent, but I lost my grandfather after a long illness when I was fourteen. It’s was 19 years ago on Oct 29, and it’s still hard to think about. I adored him.
My thoughts are with you, sweetie. hugs
Thank you, that means a lot to me. I’m sorry for your loss also.
I don’t think you’re overreacting, Michaela. Intimate IM is still cheating.
Sorry the guy was too chicken shit to do something about it when he had the chance. That’s the suckiest thing I’ve heard in a while.